It was time for a talk
Updated: Apr 13, 2021
After weeks of feeling frustrated and becoming more frustrated by not knowing why I was feeling frustrated. This prompted me to schedule an appointment with Susan, my therapist.
I last spoke with Susan in September of 2020 and a lot has happened in my life since then. I'm married now and we're trying for a baby. I've written my father a letter after 3 years of not talking or communicating at all. 217 Recovery is taking off in many directions, and the future is exciting and it won't be easy. Knowing those things and others that I'm not mentioning, it's no wonder why I feel how I do.
It didn't take Susan long to ask if I thought some of this frustration had to do with control. She pointed out that I'm the type of person who wants to be in control or at least have some type of control over my actions in certain situations. After thinking about it for two seconds, I came to the conclusion that most of the frustration was due to me and my want and need to control certain situations. Some of them had ZERO to even do with me. Here I am getting all upset about things that were truly none of my business.
The lesson I learned is unless asked for my advice, don't give it. If I think someone is wanting my advice, ask them, "Is this something you would like me to comment on"?
I'm going to focus on staying in my own lane as much as I can.